In a relationship most men falls into one of this four categories namely;
- Boy
- Player
- Confused man
- A good man
- A BOY
- A boy will always be a boy regardless of his age. Growing up and growing old are never the same, growing old is mandatory but growing up is optional by choice. A boy cares less about what makes you happy as a woman. He knows little or no idea about putting a home together, and he is not ready to learn. The woman will do the thinking and makes decisions. He will be more concern about his mode of dressing than his character. A boy in a relationship is too loose, he will tell and talks about everything in his relationship to everybody and openly condemns his woman. A boy worries about what his mom thinks of him.even when it is time to focus on his family. A boy doesn’t plan for the future and doesn’t want to grow up. He doesn’t understand the importance of responsibilities.
When his woman is upset, he gets angry. He doesn’t know how to help her become calm. He is not a bad person but he is still a boy.he will rather play around with his phone or computer.
You cannot put a bike engine (55hp) in a car(250hp) and expect it the performance of a car. When a matured woman dates a boy,she automatically becomes a girl. She will change from a peaceful matured woman to a nagging young girl and her friends will think she is going crazy. A boy gets easily intimidated by his woman’s position or status and feel insecured by her income. He believes he deserves respect because he thinks he is the man based on his age. It is difficult to communicate with a boy since he usually thinks he is right. He feels superior. He thinks he is doing the woman a favour by dating or marrying her.
- A PLAYER
It is better to be single than date a player. No matter how much you invest in a relationship with a player . It must likely ends in heartbreak. A player is smart and selfish and doesn’t stay faithful to one woman.
Most woman falls for a player because they appear attractive and presentable. A player has something extraordinary about them. He can be rich, famous, tall, handsome, talented, romantic, good in bed and possesses many extraordinary qualities that sweeps women of their feet.
He will sweep you off your feet and makes you believe that you are the luckiest woman alive, they will show you love to see and will make unbelievable promises. He will get into your head through your heart. And take control of your thinking. He will spend any amount of money and effort to take you to bed. And after accomplishing his mission, the story changes. Any affection you get from a player can be temporary. The first problem you are likely going to have with him is that his words will start contradict his actions. Then his time and behavior will change drastically. He will start wondering what you did wrong again. It is not you it’s him. A players time is limited because he got a lot of women to share it with. It is hard to win a game with a player unless she is materialistic or never dates or marries for love. A player has no space for love. He will potentially marries a victim for selfish reasons or benefits. And continues his gain after marriage. He will tell terrible story about his wife just to get another woman to bed.
- A CONFUSED MAN
The main problem with a confused man is that he doesn’t know what he wants. Relationship is like a door either you are in or out. A confused man will put one foot in and the other foot out. People will think you have a perfect relationship while you are no actually sure where you stand. A confused man can be a wonderful man who doesn’t play games. He will love you, give you all you want but he will rarely commit to you . He will give you excuses all the time and put your life on hold, not because he is bad but because he is yet to figure out what he really wants in life. Of course their is no rush in love, but their is a big difference but endurance and ignorance. You can only endures with a man who knows what he wants and where he is going in life. Endurance with a confused man can be risky and a complete waste of time.
When a woman makes up her mind and decides to leave, a confused man will change and start making new promises just to make her wait more. After a while he goes back to his old ways and for the woman the waiting continues.
One of the greatest mistake is to embark on a life journey with someone who is not going anywhere in life.
- A GOOD MAN
A good man is the best gift any woman can get. He is grown up, matured man regardless of his age. And he is done playing game ready to commit to one woman and be faithful to her. He is responsible, trustworthy and loves you and anything that concerns you. He is sensitive to your needs and listen when you are upset he will adore you, support you and brings out the best in you. He will be consistent and his words will match his actions. A good man doesn’t make promises,they make commitment. You would have to beg for his attention. He will laugh with you cry with you. He will focus on future and not complain about your past.
When there is conflict, he will listen with compassion. If you are angry with him, he will work hard to understand why. He will carry you along his plans. If you disagrees with him, he will listen to your own point of view.although he may not have a lot but he will be happy to share the little he has.
Most women thinks that good men are difficult to find. But the truth is there are millions of good men up there. The question is where are these good men? They are standing behind the boys , the players and the confused types. You just have to clear up the way first so you can see them.
NOTE: boys , players and confused men can become Good men if they actually want to mature.
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